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Chances are, you’re busy hustling between the 40 hours a week you need to work, the family you need to provide for, and the bills that need to be paid.

As the years pass by, you’ve begun to feel the burnout from all the needs and expectations required of you. You don’t feel like you are in control over your own life. In fact, it feels like the circumstances in your life are controlling you.

What if there was a way for you to be able to have better control of your life and create all the positive changes you’ve been aching for?

This can be done through self-realization.

What Is Self-Realization?

Self-realization has a few big definitions. In the Western world, it’s generally defined as the activation of one’s full potential of talents and abilities.

How Psychologists Define Self-Realization

Humanistic psychology also follows a similar train of thought about self-realization.

Psychologist Abraham Maslow has named people he considered to have reached self-realization such as Albert Einstein, Abraham Lincoln and Eleanor Roosevelt to name a few. His famous hierarchy of needs theory states in order to achieve self-realization (or in this case, Maslow uses the term “self-actualization”), one needs to have a certain set of needs met before achieving it:

For example, self-realization cannot be achieved if you are struggling financially and too caught up in worrying about how to pay for the rent and provide food for your family. Unfortunately, this is usually the case for many people, which leaves little opportunity for them to maximize their abilities.

Here are some amazing benefits to self-realization:

  • The ability to monitor your emotions. Rather than being controlled by your emotions, you can now use your observations about them during the experience to learn how to effectively handle things like fear, anxiety and stress. Self-realizations helps you do this by giving you the skill of letting go of debilitating feelings and taking hold of the empowering ones instead.

  • Improved focus and concentration. Guided by your own inner goals and values, self-realization helps you easily identify when you are entering into distractions and eliminate them. By getting rid of the meaningless things in your life, you stay committed to what matters most and you begin to see real results as you reach your fullest potential.

  • Increased confidence, self-awareness and self-esteem. By being connected deeply to your truest self, self-realization frees you from any insecurities, worries, and low sense of self worth that you feel tangled up in by helping you really grasp the truth that you are not defined by them.

  • Becoming more accepting of yourself and of other people. You are able to be more authentic and express emotions freely and clearly. As a result, you are able to form deeper relationships and spend more time connecting with people rather than trying to impress them.

How to Start Developing Self-Realization

1. Start Meditating Regularly

2. Make Time for Self-Realization Every Day

I know what you’re thinking.

“I don’t have time for this!”

I beg to differ.

About 40 percent of the things you do in a day don’t involve you actively making a decision. Instead, it is actually a habit.

Out of all of your habits, there are probably a handful of bad ones. If you can observe your daily routines, there is a simple way to change a bad habit into a good one, which is to start making changes to your environment to make it easier for you to change your habits.

The idea is rather than trying to squeeze in more time to do something, simply alter a daily habit you have into something else.

For example, let’s say you start your morning by brewing your coffee and sitting down on the dining table for 20 minutes to browse the internet to catch up on the news.

The news is usually full of negative information, so why not spend those 20 minutes in meditation instead?

One easy way to make this change is to change your environment up by keeping your laptop and phone in a different room so you don’t have immediate access to it when you sit down on the dining table. You make it easier on yourself to spend time meditating rather than staring at a screen.

Want some more great tips on breaking bad habits? You can try out Lifehack CEO’s secret Control Alternate Delete method, which was the method he used to break 3 bad habits in less than 2 months.

You can read this amazing article in full here.

Self-realisation // personal experience

by Josh Wilson

Finding theatre and how it changed my life

Hi! My name is Josh, in 2012 I graduated Arts at University of the Fraser Valley. Since then art and teaching English are my main passions. I’m happy to share some of my experience with you this week.

It wasn’t really an auspicious moment that led me to theatre. There was no calling muse, or destiny foretold. In actuality it was all rather mundane. Which is an interesting thing to say about something that has so deeply and profoundly impacted my life.

When I was 16 I was conned into doing my first theatrical production, a community theatre rendition of “The King and I”. I say conned into it, because I had no desire to be a part of it. You see, my sister was in it and I didn’t really think theatre, musical theatre for that matter, was very cool... However, my father decided that I would not spend my whole summer holidays sitting around doing nothing. So he hatched a plan.

He needed to drop off something for my sister and asked me to come along. I didn’t want to go, but I begrudgingly agreed, I mean honestly I didn’t have that much to do... It was a warm summer day and as we started driving I promptly fell asleep in the car. After we arrived my dad shook me awake and I blearily roused myself. I was a bit of a mess. Hair all in disarray (especially since I thought it was cool to have long hair… it was the mid 2000 after all) a bit of drool on my chin, and my mind was in that sort of quasi-state somewhere between dreaming and the real world. 

So I followed him inside. Shook the directors hand, and inadvertently had joined the cast. Which had been his plan all along, he knew if he got me to meet the director, I wouldn’t be able to refuse doing the show.

And it was fun, beyond anything I could have ever imagined. I had the best summer I had ever had. I made new friends, had so many laughs, and got to be in front of an audience. I had the time of my life, and I realized that I wanted more of this.

So I started auditioning for other productions. I took singing lessons. I studied theatre in University, and I kept falling in love with it again and again and again.

Since then it has opened up my world. I’ve gotten to perform in many different countries with many different people. I’ve made amazing friends all across the world. I’ve laughed, cried, and been a part of so many things that are so much bigger than myself.

Working in the theatre has made me more compassionate, creative, empathetic, charismatic, humble and maybe even a bit wiser. I can say for certain that I wouldn’t be the person I am today if I hadn't agreed to go with my dad, shaken the directors hand, and taken the first steps on a journey that would shape and change my life forever.

Self-realization doesn’t happen overnight. It will take some time and practice, but if you turn the practices into a habit, you’ll be guaranteed to get there. Once you do, you’ll finally feel like you are in more control over your life and be able to get yourself to the next level.

Now that you have a better understanding of the importance and benefits of self-realization, why not take a moment to put everything down and give it a try?

That’s all by now.

Stay Amazing <3